“Mom, does Maddison have a running activity tonight?” “No, why?” “Do you want to go to a softball game? If not, it’s okay because there will be other games.” No, we did not go to the game. Was I interested in watching a softball game that she was not playing in? No. Did I have something else planned at home? No. Was there a financial lost in attending the game? No. Guess what?! We did not go to the game.
This was odd because I typically find a way to say YES to everything. After all, how can I say to these beautiful faces?
We are coming up on a new year and will be implementing new rules. It is not okay for my daughters to think that they completely control my schedule. Yes, I knew when I had children that a majority of my time would go to them. Yes, I know that they did not ask to be here and that their cultivation is my responsibility. However, I am learning more and more that it’s important to set boundaries for myself. I am learning that I am only as good to others, as I am to myself. That means that I have to find time to rest and rejuvenate, both physically and most importantly mentally. It means that I do not have to fill every empty minute of my day. I am learning that it is okay to have free time. Time to sit. Time to unwind. Time to hear yourself think. Time to embrace the moment. Time to just be.
What would you do with free time? Read a book? Go for a walk? Write a letter? Watch a movie? Write a blog post? Draft a business plan? Listen to a podcast? Sing a song? Meditate? Dance? Plan your week? Prepare a healthy meal? Go for a bike ride? Research rental properties? Apply for a grant? Take a nap?
The options are endless! Personal goals. Professional goals. Spiritual goals. Make time for them!
We make time to accomplish our goals when we learn how to give an unapologetic NO to some requests so that we are able to give a resounding YES to other things. You may have to say no to a spouse, a child, a family member, a friend, a co-worker, etc. Keep in minding that saying NO to them today allows you to say YES to yourself or to someone else with a greater need. Saying NO today requires short term sacrifices for long term gains.
The end result may not be completely obvious right now, but trust that there will be an ultimate benefit. Wait for it!