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Forgive Those You Love

"You are choosing to leave."

WOW!

I did not see or hear that coming. These words hit me and hit me hard. I mean I felt the depth of those words down in the core of my soul.

It was at that moment that I realized I hurt her. I was letting her down.

This is an all too familiar story.

A story where our loved ones let us down.

A story where our loved ones fail to meet our expectations.

A story where our loved ones make choices that we do not agree with.

Who are our loves ones?

They can be our immediate family members - parents and siblings.
They can be our extended family members - grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins.
They can be our spiritual family members - pastors and church members.
They can be our friends - childhood connections, workout partners, fraternal connections.

These are the people who we love and trust the most. The people who we expect to love us back. The people who we expect to show us their love for us. The people we expect to be there for us. To support us. To encourage us. To uplift us. To pick us up. I'm sure you get the point.

Hearing these words from the precious 12-year old daughter was a reminder to me. It was a reminder that sometimes even those individuals who are the closest to us may be the same individuals who hurt us the most.

They don't show up for us.
They don't include us.
They don't check in on us.
They don't call or visit us.
They don't affirm us.
They don't tell us they love us.
They betray us.
They abuse us.
They molest us.
They steal from us.
They lie to us.
They abandon us.

In many cases, these hurtful actions are unintentional. They are not thought out or meditated over. Sometimes, they just happen.

It is not our responsibility to hold onto the hurt and pain.

Instead, it is our duty to let it go. In other words, we are to absolve. Forgive.

Forgive those who wrong you - Ephesians 4:32

Forgive as often as necessary - Matthew 18:21-22

Forgive to be forgiven - Colossians 3:13


What loved one(s) do you need to forgive?

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