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Gratefulness or Greed

Whew, how times flies! Another minute, another hour, another day, another week, another month, another year. Time passes us by so quickly.   And many of us often move right along with it. There’s so much to see and so much to do. We sometimes move so fast to get to the next thing that we fail to see every precious moment in site. Moving and shaking is a great thing, but we must move cautiously. When we move too fast, there’s a possibility that we will blur the lines. Did you know that there’s a thin line between gratefulness and greed? The definition of grateful is “ warmly or deeply appreciative of kindness or benefits received.” I am grateful for food, shelter, and clothing. I am grateful for physical health and peace of mind. I am grateful for family and friends. I am grateful for employment. I am grateful for all these and many other things. Yet, I still move with the speed of light. I can’t seem to sit still or in silence. I still seek more. I still desire

Forgiveness is a Gift!

Imagine the feelings of anger rising up just because you scrolled through Facebook. Consider how quickly your smile left your face as you quickly ran through Instagram. Think about the discomfort you experienced when you caught a glimpse of that familiar face or heard the familiar voice. We may not be comfortable admitting it, but many of us have a trigger. Everyone’s trigger is different. There’s a trigger that reminds of us a hurtful past. A reminder of the brokenness in our lives. A broken relationship. A failed dream. A lost job. An overlooked promotion. A bad decision. A bout of unfaithfulness. An avoidable accident. A backstabbing. An inappropriate touch. A series of negative words.      What’s your trigger? What has happened to you that evokes negative feelings within you? Who has harmed you or hurt you? Have you made a personal decision that you regret? Do you carry shame and guilt? Whatever those things are, it’s time to let go! Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us, “ There


It’s beginning to feel a lot like Christmas! More holiday songs are filling the radio station airways. Malls and shopping stores have increased their hours. The number of hours sleeping per night has decreased. Recipes are floating around. Parties and gathering are being planned. Gift exchanges are underway. As you make your final gift giving preparations, I challenge you to give DEEP : Desired . I remember being a child and looking through the Toys R Us advertisement so that I could make my wish list. I would grin and smile the entire time. All the while, circling everything I wanted Santa to bring me. I guarantee you there were at least two things circled on every page. I desired A LOT. But out of everything I circled, there was always one thing that I wanted more than anything. There is always a bottom line. Find out what that thing is. Once you find out that one thing that your loved one desires, find a way to fulfil that desire. Do NOT break the bank! If you have the res

It’s the beginning of

….   That’s right! Today represents the beginning of the end. The beginning is the start of something fresh and new. The end is the conclusion of something that has already started. We find ourselves in this place over and over at various points in life. We experience the beginning of the end in jobs. When I made the decision to leave my employment position two years ago and embark on a new journey where I could re-focus on my family, it was the beginning of the end. The beginning was when I took an affirmative step to seek alternative employment opportunities. The end came on December 1, 2014 when I packed up my last few items and took my name plate off my office door. We experience the beginning of the end in relationships. When he realized that his wife was serious about getting a divorce, it was beginning of the end. The beginning came after the wife learned of yet another bout of her husband’s infidelity. When his wife asked him to leave the marital home, he knew it w

Living in the Shadow

Shadows are everywhere we go. With every step we take, there is a shadow lurking in the wind. How often have you looked at someone else’s life and circumstances, wondering he or she got to the place they are? How did she get that promotion? How did he get with her? How does she get all of that done? How did she learn how to speak so well? How did they afford that house? If you’re anything like me, when you start to make assumptions on how things are going for people around you, you end up comparing yourself against that person.                                          What did she do that I didn’t do?                                          What does he know that I don’t know?                                          Who does she know that I don’t know? You wonder how things for them turned out the way they did. You question what you could have done differently to reach those same ‘desired’ results. You start to doubt yourself. This doubt starts the d

More Than Thanks

Gobble! Gobble! It’s Turkey Day! Have you earned your meal? Family sitting around a table. Multiple generations represented. Everyone smiling, laughing, and enjoying each other’s company. Music playing in the background. Children as happy as can be. People reunited. Connections re-established. Memories re-lived. Isn’t this what Thanksgiving Day is all about? 1.        Leave the difficult past in the past . Instead of focusing on who hurt you, focus on how you grew from the experience. There’s a reason why things happened in your life. You may not yet understand that purpose, but trust me, there is one. Instead of dwelling on the pain of the past, focus on the hope of the future. 2.        Don’t get overconsumed in the marketplace . Yes, it can be loads of fun to go out into the masses for Black Friday shopping. But don’t lost sight of what’s important. Thanksgiving is a time of togetherness. Don’t abandon your loved ones to go waste time and money. Moments of togetherness ca

Free Time?!?!

“Mom, does Maddison have a running activity tonight?” “No, why?” “Do you want to go to a softball game? If not, it’s okay because there will be other games.” No, we did not go to the game. Was I interested in watching a softball game that she was not playing in? No. Did I have something else planned at home? No. Was there a financial lost in attending the game? No. Guess what?! We did not go to the game.    This was odd because I typically find a way to say YES to everything. After all, how can I say to these beautiful faces? We are coming up on a new year and will be implementing new rules. It is not okay for my daughters to think that they completely control my schedule. Yes, I knew when I had children that a majority of my time would go to them. Yes, I know that they did not ask to be here and that their cultivation is my responsibility. However, I am learning more and more that it’s important to set boundaries for myself. I am learning that I am only as good to others, as I

Wise Ants

Have you ever had to tell someone around you to watch their step? “That’s an ant bed!” It’s identifiable by a mound of dirt that has lots of tiny holes. It’s low to the ground so if you’re not really zoned in, you could miss it. Unfortunately though, some of us miss the warning signs and feel the impact after our toes our itching and our feet are covered in small bumps from ant bites. Our lives are much like this. Some of the smallest, most discreet situations trip us up. There are warning signs but we sometimes miss them. It’s amazing how such a small thing can have such a stinging impact. In spite of how annoying ants can be, there are some unique characteristics of an ant that we can all learn from. Even Proverbs 6:6 urges us to “ Go to the ant, you sluggard; consider its ways and be wise! ” What is it about the ‘ant’ that makes it so wise and powerful? For one thing, ants have a strong, effective way of communicating with other ants. Like with humans, pheromones are

A smile?

Looks can be deceiving! Tonight was my last opportunity to get a run in before my half marathon. New shoes, so they needed to be broken in. New energy supplement, so it needed to be tested. Sore hamstrings, so they needed to be stretched out. Tonight was my I thought. The school bus was 20 minutes late so my schedule was thrown off. Ross didn't have a handheld water bottle for me to test out for my energy drink. I changed clothes in the car. I spent 20 minutes looking for the running group. My wireless headphones wouldn't connect...again. I left my pouch somewhere, who knows where. Didn't have time to put on my compression sleeves. I felt like a 2 year old in the middle of potty training but there were no restrooms in sight. This was the worst run! Yet there's a smile...or is it? I told myself I was going to do 3 miles. It didn't feel like I was going to make it but I wouldn't let myself stop. One foot in front of the other. Stay steady. Ju

The Climb

You’ve heard the saying, ‘let go and let God.’ But how do you let go when the past haunts you? What do you do when your past follows you and taps you on the shoulders from time to time? How about the past circumstance that has a direct impact on your present situation and your future possibilities? How do you let go when you stare at your past every single day that you breathe life.  How do you move on? Moving on is not an easy thing to do but it is a required thing to do. Listening to Sarah Jakes Roberts, I was reminded that “… the climb is gonna require that you lighten your load .” In other words, the baggage that you carry around by holding on to things will impact your ability to move into your future. Learn to forgive! Forgiving does not mean that you forget about the past. However, it does mean that you open up your heart for the healing process to begin. It means that you give permission to yourself to move on, to grow, and to learn from your experience. Forgiveness allow

Wheels Up

“Flight attendants, please prepare for take-off.” We heard those words at 9:11p. The plane started moving then it stopped. We started moving in circles. Then we were still again. “We should be getting an update soon.” The plane was dark and cold. My only comfort was my cell phone and the text conversation I was having during this whole ordeal. All I wanted was to get home. At 11:25p, I again heard “Flight attendants, please prepare for take-off.” I was much more skeptical this second time around. Over the next several minutes, the plane rolled a little, then stopped. Made a semi-turn, then rested in a still position. Then finally, the wheels were up. Imagine all of the thoughts I experienced in the two hours I sat on that plane awaiting take-off. Did I mention that my seat was in the middle of a three-seated row? I’m sure you’ve been here before. Perhaps you weren’t on a delayed flight. It’s the place where you thought things and situations in your life were moving forward. Th

The Iceberg of the Mind

Foundation was firm.   Construction was cleared. Safety efforts were pre-determined to be satisfactory. Any potential damage was sustainable, right? Wrong! On April 14, 1912, the RMS Titanic sank to the demise of over 1,500 passengers and crew members. No one saw the potential impact coming. But there it was. Hidden out of plain view. An iceberg. An iceberg is a large piece of ice that has broken off from a glacier. Typically, only a very small portion of an iceberg’s volume is viewable above water. Accordingly, the heaviest portion of an iceberg is hidden below the surface. There, in the hidden area, is where the potential for disaster lies. After the Titanic sank in 1912, there were several outrages about how the incident was handled. However, one of the most noteworthy of them all is the fact that “the Titanic disaster may very well have been able to have been completely avoided had officers on ship paid heed to reports received earlier regarding the frozen wat

Waiting in Expectation

I thought the email was a joke. It was the first correspondence received since April. That was four months ago. The words in the email were generic and the time stamp indicated that the email was sent in the wee hours of the night. It couldn’t possibly be legit. Right? Wrong. The same email came through again about 24 hours later. This latter email was met with a response. Then, just 24 hours later, another email followed. I was now being invited to attend a training/meeting. The research process was now started. Who was the individual who sent the email? What the content legit? What harm could come from responding? So many questions. So much excitement. I’m sure you know the feeling. It was the job you applied for. The house you fell in love with. The beautiful or handsome human specimen that you couldn’t get your mind off of. Your dream car. The business venture that kept you up brainstorming at night. The baby you were waiting to conceive or adopt. The medical miracle.

Mistakes or Decisions

“ STOP MAKING EXCUSES for things YOU Control; it wasn't a mistake after the first time, it was a DECISION !” Reading this on a social media site immediately caught my attention. A mistake versus a decision. My first reaction was … ‘Ouch! Any bad actions that I take are not permissible after the first time.’ But then I thought … ‘Wait a minute, why is the first time permissible?’ Maybe it’s not. There’s such a fine line between the two. A mistake is “an action or judgment that is misguided or wrong.” A mistake is printing your term paper on yellow paper instead of white paper. A mistake is grabbing the directions to the interview but leaving your resume on the printer. A mistake is heading West on the Interstate when you’re supposed to be headed East. A mistake could even be thinking an adult is a child or a male is a female. A mistake might even be proceeding through the yellow light instead of throwing your brakes on. A mistake is NOT the emotional or physical affair you

New Age Technology

Disconnected yet reconnected. This is how I feel right now. My cell phone has been out of commission for over three weeks. It hasn’t been easy to live without my phone but it has been an eye-opening experience. Here are five things that this new age technology have reminded me of: 1.        Good versus Best. Being released of the clutter of life that comes from constant phone calls, responding to emails throughout the day, continuous social media posting and reviewing, etc has allowed me to focus on some of the more important things in life. I’m getting back to the basics. Note that the things listed above are not bad. In fact, in many respects, I think they’re good. However, being released from the clutter helps to re-direct us towards the best that life has to offer.     2.        Respect. Boundaries DO exist.  “Me” time. Spiritual time. Meditation. Family time. Work obligations. Scheduled activities. Vacation. There's a time and place for everything. Although cell phones a

Freedom is Yours

I was listening to an empowerment call and I heard a story about a young girl who questioned the maximization of our freedom. This nine year old girl was telling her father that she was beginning to be bound up by technology instead of living in her freedom to live out her dreams. In other words, she was allowing her phone with all of its apps and gadgets to take her away from writing her book. Yes, she had the freedom to make a choice. However, she realized that freedom to make a choice doesn’t negate the responsibility to make the best choice. defines freedom in a number of ways. Freedom is “the state of being free or at liberty rather than in confinement or under physical restraint.” It is an “’exemption from external control, interference, regulation, etc.” Freedom is “the power to determine action without restraint.” It is an “exemption from the presence of anything specified (usually followed by from ).” Freedom can also be viewed as “the absence of or rele